Did you miss me?

            Oh boy, it’s been a hot minute since I’ve updated.  It’s been ALMOST a year?! The last post was dated September 16, 2024.  Holyyyyyyy shit. 

            Well, here’s another long-ish update for anyone that’s even reading this lol.  It’s also nice for me to go back to it from time to time to be able to look back and reflect on the past year.  Where should I start….?

            I guess we can start on my personal life first. Nothing has really changed with my married life. Husband is still great and amazing. He got to meet more of my coworkers recently because we went out to celebrate our joint birthdays, so that was fun!  Everyone keeps telling him how patient he is with me and how high maintenance I am.  I really don’t see it!  I work hard for what I want.  I typically get what I want because I’ll get it myself lol.  But to be fair, hubby does take care of my needs.  He’s still the chef and the dishwasher.  Partly because I’m so exhausted after my drive home and for the most part, I’m lazy with chores haha.  But hey, I’ve given him breaks and I’ll do the dishes, and he appreciates it and he tells me that he appreciates it so I don’t mind.  Aside from that, my brother and his girlfriend welcomed a baby daughter last Christmas!  I love my baby niece so much already.  She’s such an easy baby, she’s not that fussy in general and she’s usually a happy and curious baby.  She doesn’t really cry or throw tantrums, she’s already making silly faces, I can see myself in her sometimes and I am loving it.  I know that she’s going to be my littlest best friend someday.

            Work life – this one is kinda big I guess.  On my last update, I talked about one of my project managers coming around and supporting my growth.  Well, we had our annual review around October and I didn’t get the raise that I was hoping for and again, I was denied a promotion.  Wait, I take it back, I wasn’t denied a promotion, it was going to be “forthcoming” but they were looking at March of this year.  In the midst of it all, I received a very lucrative job offer and to make a long story short, I submitted my resignation letter early November.  On the 2^nd day after I submitted my resignation, the company counter-offered me to stay.  They were willing to pay me “whatever” I asked for.  I gave them a number that I was happy with and they accepted immediately.  I didn’t ask for a really high number, but I asked for what’s fair.  It was better than the offer I received, but it wasn’t more than what a senior PE would earn.  I know my levels of skills aren’t where a senior PE’s skills were and I wanted to give myself room to grow and improve.  So, in mid or late November (I can’t recall now), I finally got the promotion that I have worked so hard for in the last 4.5 years.  I’ve also reached my 5^th year of employment so I got bumped up to 4 weeks of PTO accrual rate.  I also received a very generous year end bonus last year as well.  It’s been a very challenging 7 months to say the least.  We’ve been busier than ever and the company also hired (internally) a new project coordinator for our team.  Unfortunately, he hasn’t been working out for us.  There were a lot of problems from the start and overall, he was just not a good match for the team.  I’ve expressed my opinions and he lacked a lot of…basic skills.  He wasn’t resourceful at all.  He only wanted us to give him the answers instead of using the resources I’ve shared with him.  He couldn’t even figure out how to call a restaurant to book a reservation.  He had no critical thinking skills, he didn’t like taking initiatives, he was combative whenever I tried to train him, he felt that some of the duties he was asked to do were “beneath him”, etc.  Don’t even get me started on the inappropriate stuff that he says too and most of them are sexual in nature.  I know I make a lot of off-colored jokes, but he’s made some very inappropriate and strong “sexual harassment” comments.  I feel extremely uncomfortable and unsafe around him.  Today, he even made a comment about how he would go to diddy’s “freak off” parties without being asked or provoked.  Like….what the fuck is wrong with you??  He’s got to go, I don’t feel safe around him at all.  It’s one thing to suck at your job, but another to be a fucking creep while you’re at it!  I don’t know, I hope this changes soon because there’s no way I’m going to continue working with him.

            I've been working long, long, lonnnnnnnnnnnng hours these past few weeks and I am so burnt out.  My coworker also pushed me to go back to the gym tonight after work and I pushed myself to go because it's been a few months since we've stepped foot inside the gym.  I need to de-stress and to also get back into a slightly better shape so that we can visit South Korea later this year (hopefully).  I want to be able to do some hiking and sight seeing without feeling too exhausted or winded!  We'll see what happens in the next few months.  It's barely 10pm and I can barely keep my little eyes open.  This will have to do for now, until next time.